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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 0:53:09 GMT -5
randi, we hadn't even finished high school yet. i was seventeen, she was sixteen, and hell yeah we were scared. but we couldn't change it, couldn't take it back. i had to accept it and realize that my life was going to be different, but i was going to figure it out because being there for that baby meant more to me than anything else. i have a very good feeling that you're the same way, so sure it's scary as hell and you feel like you're drowning in everything right now, but it all comes into perspective and it works. at least you know you have jared, and that you two are going to be together through this.
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 1:00:42 GMT -5
how is it that you always know what to say whenever no one else knows how to make me feel calm? that's exactly how i feel, i know everything is going to change but it's my little one. but that is exactly how i feel. like i'm drowning and can't breath. i love jared and i am happy, but seriously this is insane! and i don't just have jared, i have you to talk me down when i need it and all our families.
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 1:10:00 GMT -5
because i am amazing, randi. that's why. and i also happen to have a lot of life experience to draw words of wisdom from. and i know you, and i know you're going to be able to pull it all together and make it work. yeah, it might be insane, but just take my word for it and enjoy it because i believe you've been given something pretty special. yes, you always have me sweetheart. and the whole trent family unit as a support team, so you're gonna be fine.
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 1:15:00 GMT -5
so are you throwing your five years of wisdom at me, eh? just because i am a little young thing doesn't mean anything. i will say one thing, you do know me pretty well. which is why i am going to ask you something, don't judge my question either. alright, but i know our support system is amazing. especially if i have you on my team too.but yeah, about this question....
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 1:19:17 GMT -5
i'm not talking about ages, i'm talking about how i seem to have thrown myself up against a wall so many times with situations that i shouldn't have had to be dealing with at the ages that i was. please, like i have any room to judge someone. what did you want to ask me?
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 1:24:06 GMT -5
well that is your fault mister! you get yourself into predicaments that you can't get yourself out of. well there is a reason that i am going to ask you this, because you can't judge....but i get the feeling that i should tell my parents that they are going to be grandparents. i just don't know who to talk to about it because i know how jared and kade are going to act. but i don't know what to do, seeing as how i don't know if they know i'm married or anything.
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 1:31:48 GMT -5
kade and jared are going to tell you hell no before you can even finish that question. and i really want to say the same damn thing, because do you honestly want people like that in your child's life? believe me, i know how you feel; i've thought about if i knew my crack whore mother was alive and where she was if i'd tell her, but i know i wouldn't because i owe her nothing, and you don't owe your parents anything either. ultimately that's your call, and i may not have been around the last time your father made an appearance here, but that doesn't mean i like him any more than kade does.
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 1:40:17 GMT -5
i know, i know. neither of them are going to want to hear this question, but i can't help but have it floating in my head. i never said they would be involved, but i kind of think they have a right to know that they are going to be grandparents. well the last visit didn't go very well seeing as how i got slapped around a little bit until kade stepped in and took care of everything. but just don't know what to do.
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 18:20:51 GMT -5
well, this is something that you're gonna have to go with your gut on, babe. i am going to say that i don't think that they deserve anything after what you went through, but they aren't my parents.
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 18:24:41 GMT -5
it's a tiny bit more complicated than that. especially whenever kade finds out about this idea in my head. i know they don't deserve it, but if i don't tell them it's like slapping them around. and it puts me down on their level, or is that just in my head?
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 18:29:46 GMT -5
hey, ultimately it's up to you, randi. kade and jared, might be pissed off but it's your decision and we'll all just have to live with whatever you choose. you do what you think is right. that's definitely just in your head. there is no way that you should feel like the guilty one when they are the ones that are at fault.
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 18:36:18 GMT -5
well it's not just my decision kaler. it's jared's too. it's his kid too, and this is a big thing to decide. i just don't know what to do about it all, because i wouldn't want my kid to do that to me. granted very different circumstances, but if it hadn't have happened i would have never been sent here. look at me rationalizing this whole thing, what am i supposed to do?! there is something wrong with me.
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 19:34:18 GMT -5
your kid would never even have to wonder about whether or not they should tell you because you and jared aren't going to be parents that leave them, or decide it's okay to let bad things happen to them or write them off completely. and that seems like reaching to me, but i'm not going to try to put my opinions on you. there's nothing wrong with you, you're just a kind person that thinks of them when they couldn't be bothered to do the same for you.
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Post by miranda lillian trent on Feb 21, 2011 19:43:03 GMT -5
very true, and i know that. i am not going to be like my mother, i guarantee you that. well think about it. if my parents hadn't been scum then i never would have been sent to grams, and i never would have met jared or kade or you. my life would be very different than it is now. and i'm asking for your opinion, so share. and i know, but maybe that is why i have the doubt and the want to tell them? i don't know, i think there is something wrong with me. maybe it's the pregnant hormones or something?
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Post by kaler ryan scott on Feb 21, 2011 19:55:00 GMT -5
i think that falls under the bullshit line of "everything happens for a reason" or that thing that some people call fate. i could apply the same reasoning to my life, but i really prefer not to because that's when things get complicated. and i already to you my opinion, and that i don't think that they deserve that kindness. i don't know, you tell me if there's something wrong with you. i could just offer up what years of shrinks have told me, but aren't you going to school for that?
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